5 Ways to Find a Fuck Buddy in the Real World

Jim Wade Author

There are times in life when you are just looking for a simple, no strings attached, a friend with benefits, also known as a fuck buddy. You can always use a hookup site like ThirstyDates to find local sex. If you know this is what you want, that’s great! Understanding exactly what you are looking for is half the battle when it comes to getting what you want. Now you just have to complete the other half of the equation and find someone who is also interested in this type of relationship. If this task seems daunting, don’t worry! We have a list of five ways to find a fuck buddy! Check out our list below. 


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1. Use a dating app (or four)

It’s 2019 and the era of online dating is in full swing. While it may seem counter-intuitive to look for a real-life fuck buddy on an app, this one of the best ways to find someone who is DTF. When you start matching people on a dating app, it’s super easy to let your match know exactly what you are looking for right away. This process filters out people who are looking for serious relationships so that you can start meeting potential fuck buddies faster.  Once you find someone who is on the same page as you are, you can set a date to meet in real life and see if the chemistry is right. Some popular options for dating apps are Tinder, Casualx, Plenty Of Fish, and Happn. Try one or all of these options to see what works for you. Get to downloading!


2. Meet people at local bars and clubs

If online dating isn’t your thing, you can always keep it old school and meet people in real life at your local bars and clubs. If you’re shy, this can be a great option for you, after all, alcohol is liquid courage. A good place to start is a happy hour. Do a little research and find out the best happy hours in your area and check them out. There are often a lot of singles looking to let loose after a long workday, so why not strike up a conversation with someone. If dancing is your thing, a bar or club with a DJ is another great way to meet a potential fuck buddy. Dancing is a fun, physical activity to do with a partner and sometimes the chemistry on the dancefloor can translate to the bedroom. As always, when alcohol is involved, you never want to approach someone who is clearly intoxicated, so just play it safe and you’re sure to have a great time.


3. Slide into the DM

Nowadays, a lot of people bypass the dating apps altogether and jump straight into the DM. With Instagram at peak popularity, it’s pretty easy to communicate with your crush directly via the direct messaging system built into the app. This method of flirty communication is so popular there are songs written about it. Sliding into the DM is now a staple of hookup culture.  If there’s a certain someone that’s caught your eye on your IG friends list, why not send them a flirty message and see what happens? Emoji’s make this process even easier. Try sending some fire emojis, or better yet the heart eye emoji to let your crush know that you think they’re something special. There is one catch to the DM; if the recipient of your message doesn’t follow you back, the message will go into a separate file and they will not get the notification. This is good to be aware of so you don’t feel like you’re left hanging. If you are both following each other, they will get a notification that you’ve DM’d them and you two can take it from there. If they’re feeling the same way about you it’s easy to meet up in real life and take it from there.  


4. Netflix and Chill

Netflix and chill, a true classic of hookup culture. If you somehow don’t know what this is, Netflix and chill is a term used for a very casual date that involves watching a movie at home and heavily implies hooking up. This type of date is a popular choice for fuck buddies and people in super casual relationships. It’s a simple, cheap and straightforward way to hang out with your friend with benefits. If you’ve been flirting with someone and you two are definitely interested in each other, ask them if they want to Netflix and chill! You can be less obvious about it and invite them over for a movie and popcorn as well. If you two are vibing with each other, this is a good way to initiate a fuck buddy relationship. 


5. Take a vacation

Now this option is a bit luxurious we admit, but taking a vacation to a party destination is an exciting way to meet people who are looking for a vacation fling. Single people who travel to destinations like Las Vegas or Cancun are often on the lookout for a love connection. Since everyone there is on vacation, it’s understood that the hookup is no strings attached and all about fun. There should be plenty of opportunities to meet single people at these party destinations; check out the hotel bar, local clubs, and beach or pool parties. Plus, since it’s a vacation, everybody is much more relaxed and actively looking to have a good time. 

You’ve done your research now and you have plenty of different approaches to try out in order to meet your fuck buddy. You should definitely start by downloading some dating apps as this is often a very useful tool for people looking for all different relationship styles. Mix in some happy hours and nights on the dancefloor and you’re sure to find a match. And if you really want to dive into the deep end, take a trip to a party destination and have a real fling! If finding a fuck buddy is what you want, the world is your oyster. Good luck out there!

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